Couples today are navigating expectations no previous generation had: two-working-parent households, emotional labor, trauma awareness, shifting gender roles, and attachment needs. No one taught us how to do this. But you can learn.

A trauma-informed analysis of the “performative male” through Lily Allen’s West End Girls, Vice’s critique, Vogue’s viral take on boyfriends, and how fragile masculinity, attachment wounds, and shifting gender dynamics affect modern relationships. Learn how these patterns show up in couples therapy and how to heal them.

From the perspective of a trauma-informed couples therapist, Lily Allen’s West End Girl reveals how addiction, codependency, and attachment trauma intertwine in relationships — and how healing anxious and avoidant patterns is possible through deep attachment repair, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), the Gottman Method, and Internal Family Systems (IFS).

Netflix’s K-Pop Demon Hunters isn’t just a fantasy about idols and demons—it’s a viral allegory for mental health, trauma healing, and shame recovery. Through Rumi’s hidden “patterns” and Jinu’s struggle between grandiosity and guilt, the film mirrors real-world psychology: how avoidance feeds anxiety, how connection transforms pain, and how music becomes medicine for the nervous system. Drawing on current research in depression, anxiety, and men’s mental health, LMFT Daniell

There’s a new kind of hot guy this summer—and he’s not just shirtless at the beach. He’s in therapy, drinking an iced oat latte, saying things like, “I’ve been working on my attachment style.”

Trauma, Attachment and Relationships

How Return To Work Mandates are dismantling family systems, and causing mental health issues for Mothers, Father, Children and Family.