Humans are born neurologically unfinished. We depend on caregivers not just for food and shelter, but for emotional regulation itself. Before language, before logic, before memory as we know it, the nervous system is learning one essential lesson: Am I safe in connection?

A trauma-informed analysis of the “performative male” through Lily Allen’s West End Girls, Vice’s critique, Vogue’s viral take on boyfriends, and how fragile masculinity, attachment wounds, and shifting gender dynamics affect modern relationships. Learn how these patterns show up in couples therapy and how to heal them.

From the perspective of a trauma-informed couples therapist, Lily Allen’s West End Girl reveals how addiction, codependency, and attachment trauma intertwine in relationships — and how healing anxious and avoidant patterns is possible through deep attachment repair, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), the Gottman Method, and Internal Family Systems (IFS).

Netflix’s K-Pop Demon Hunters isn’t just a fantasy about idols and demons—it’s a viral allegory for mental health, trauma healing, and shame recovery. Through Rumi’s hidden “patterns” and Jinu’s struggle between grandiosity and guilt, the film mirrors real-world psychology: how avoidance feeds anxiety, how connection transforms pain, and how music becomes medicine for the nervous system. Drawing on current research in depression, anxiety, and men’s mental health, LMFT Daniell

Apple TV’s Severance is a haunting metaphor for trauma, dissociation, and emotional repression. Learn how Internal Family Systems and attachment theory offer a path toward integration, healing — and connection.