Humans are born neurologically unfinished. We depend on caregivers not just for food and shelter, but for emotional regulation itself. Before language, before logic, before memory as we know it, the nervous system is learning one essential lesson: Am I safe in connection?

A trauma-informed therapist explains the 13 signs of a high-quality therapist, what excellent therapy looks like, and how the therapeutic relationship rewires the brain for healing.

Couples today are navigating expectations no previous generation had: two-working-parent households, emotional labor, trauma awareness, shifting gender roles, and attachment needs. No one taught us how to do this. But you can learn.

A trauma-informed analysis of the “performative male” through Lily Allen’s West End Girls, Vice’s critique, Vogue’s viral take on boyfriends, and how fragile masculinity, attachment wounds, and shifting gender dynamics affect modern relationships. Learn how these patterns show up in couples therapy and how to heal them.

From the perspective of a trauma-informed couples therapist, Lily Allen’s West End Girl reveals how addiction, codependency, and attachment trauma intertwine in relationships — and how healing anxious and avoidant patterns is possible through deep attachment repair, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), the Gottman Method, and Internal Family Systems (IFS).